gazes have become an epidemic with consequences that are so far-reaching,
to the point of crippling one’s spirituality, weakening one’s
Imaan, sometimes even to the extent of losing one’s Imaan
- for a pretty face or a handsome face. (May Allah Ta’ala
protect us all).
More and more Muslim brothers and even sisters write,
after realizing or experiencing the effects of the ‘bitter-sweet’poison
of evil glancing: They want an antidote; they want desperately to
escape their habit – before they totally self-destruct; because
their habit of casting lustful gazes landed them in the gutters
of immorality and they have had to then contend with disgrace, humiliation
and sometimes a life-long stigma.
…But they find themselves weak in the face of the demands
of their nafs. And the nafs, by nature, enjoys the forbidden, and
is never satisfied even on fulfilment of its demands. It is very
much like the salty water of the ocean: it increases thirst and
does not quench thirst.
So for those who find themselves weak in lowering their gazes from
Haraam, they should now use their gazes – the invaluable gift
of sight - in carefully reading the following prescription, for
Alhamdulillah, if followed, lowering the gaze will become second
nature and a person will reach a stage where he will not even care
if Miss Universe is passing in front of him … because he would
have tasted the sweetness of Imaan, and would know the lofty experiences
that come on pleasing Allah Ta’ala.
To cast an evil gaze will then be most indecent and shameful for
him. The person will now know better than to disgrace himself, destroy
the tranquility and Sukoon of his heart and exchange the sweet pleasure
of Allah Ta’ala’s love for what will inevitably become
dust. He says, as my Shaykh, Hadhrat Moulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar
Saheb (Rahmatullahi ‘alayh) said in poetry:
“I will not look, I will not look,
Never will I look at one,
Looking upon whom,
Displeases my Rabb (Allah Ta’ala).”
Whilst beauty is an attribute that charms and captivates any heart;
if it is that which Allah Ta’ala has declared as forbidden,
it not only destroys the peace of the heart, it lays to waste the
very substance of Imaan that resides in the heart. Therefore, Allah
Ta’ala, addresses both the believing men and believing women:
“TELL THE BELIEVING MEN TO LOWER THEIR GAZE (FROM LOOKING
AT THAT WHICH IS HARAAM) AND TO BE MODEST (I.E. TO PROTECT THEMSELVES
FROM PROHIBITED DEEDS LIKE ADULTERY AND FORNICATION, ETC.). THAT
IS PURER FOR THEM. VERILY ALLAH IS AWARE OF WHAT THEY DO.”
“AND TELL THE BELIEVING WOMEN TO LOWER THEIR GAZE (FROM
LOOKING AT THAT WHICH IS FORBIDDEN) AND TO BE MODEST(I.E. TO PROTECT
THEMSELVES FROM PROHIBITED DEEDS LIKE ADULTERY, FORNICATION, ETC.)
AND NOT TO SHOW OFF THEIR BEAUTY EXCEPT ONLY THAT WHICH IS APPARENT
AND LET THEM WEAR THEIR HEAD-COVERINGS OVER THEIR BOSOMS…”
[SURAH AN-NUR 24 : 30/ 31]
The absolute wisdom and beauty inherent in these injunctions of
Allah Ta’ala, of lowering the gaze, guarding ones modesty
(and adopting the full Hijaab for women), is that a person will
remain far removed from the crime of Zina (adultery / fornication),
as well as the stepping stones to Zina.
All those actions that lead to the commission of sin are, like
the sin itself, absolutely forbidden. Like Zina is forbidden, so
too are all those actions that will inevitably lead to Zina. Therefore,
Allah Ta’ala says:
“AND COME NOT NEAR TO ZINA. VERILY IT IS A SHAMEFUL AND EVIL
[SURAH AL- ISRA 17 : 32]
Evil glancing is the very inception to Zina. By lowering the gaze,
we curtail furthering our evil desires. These injunctions of Allah
Ta’ala are a protection from sin and should be appreciated
by practical implementation.
• It is not impossible to lower the gaze from Haraam, as
some say. …If we have the ability to look up, we also have
the ability to look down or turn our gazes away. We open our eyes
and we close our eyes. …So what is it difficult to look down
or look away when we see a pretty face, accidentally? …More
especially when that pretty face will result in:
- The heart burning with restlessness,
- Darkness filling the heart,
- The Noor of the heart and the Noor of the face being lost.
- Earning the displeasure of Allah Ta’ala
- Inviting the Curses of Allah Ta’ala.
All that is required is a little courage. If we are bold to displease
Allah Ta’ala in His Presence, then this proves adequately
that we can be bold enough and displease nafs and shaytaan instead.
We have courage and need to re-channel it to earn His Pleasure.
• Our respected Shaykh, Hazrat Maulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar
Saheb (Rahmatullahi ‘alayh) had mentioned that if a person
is a lover of sweets and he is informed that in a certain district,
there are many, many sweet shops, the person naturally feels happy
because he will be able to enjoy sweetness any time he so wishes.
...Allah Ta’ala’s promise on lowering the gaze issweetness
In a Hadeeth-e-Qudsi, Allah Ta’ala says: “Verily evil
glancing is an arrow from the poisonous arrows of Shaytaan. Whosoever
fears Me (Allah) and refrains from it will receive from Me such
Imaan, the sweetness of which he will taste (feel) in his heart.”
So we should consider the occasions, when we are in public areas
and other venues, where there may be many strange women present,
as an opportunity of lowering the gaze and enjoying and savouring
the sweetness of Imaan.
Of course, this should not be misconstrued to mean that we visit
those places where there is temptation. Where there is mud, even
an elephant can slip.
• At such a time – when the desire is strong to cast
that evil gaze, immediately strike a deal with Allah Ta’ala.
Say: “O Allah, it is solely for Your Pleasure and out of Love
for You that I am restraining myself from casting these evil gazes,
even though my nafs and heart desire to derive forbidden pleasure
in this. …O Allah, I am placing Your Pleasure before my pleasure
and am hopeful of the fulfillment of Your Promise, of granting the
sweetness of Imaan to the one who lowers his gaze from Haraam.”
In another Hadeeth mentioned in Mishkaat Shareef, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
‘alayhi wasallam) said: “When anyone’s eyes fall
on a pretty girl and he immediately casts his gaze away from her,
Allah grants him the Divine Guidance towards such Ibaadah, the ecstasy
of which he feels in himself.”
• Moreover, if a person is married, then keep in mind that
Allah Ta’ala has given a wife who is Halaal. It is great ingratitude
that a person would choose to look at and fantasize over Haraam
women, when blessed with a Halaal wife. This will inevitably result
in dissatisfaction, unhappiness and even criticism of one’s
wife and will open the doors of marital misery.
Lustful glancing is infidelity and a violation of the rights of
one’s spouse. …Would any well-balanced, sound-minded
person like that his wife casts evil gazes at other men, and fantasizes
about them? …So similarly, she too will not like that her
husband engages in such disloyalty and betrayal.Of course, the same
is applicable to women. Many women, including married women, complain
of their weakness of admiring men.
• Always keep in mind that casting lustful gazes means casting
those gazes at someone’s daughter, mother, sister, wife, etc.
Would anyone of us like that someone does the same to our wives,
our daughters, our mothers or our sisters? ...No.
If we respect strange women by lowering our gazes and keeping our
hearts free of evil passions and lust, Insha-Allah, Allah Ta’ala
will protect our womenfolk from those who have sick hearts and minds.
Otherwise they will also be subjected to the same evil from strange
men. None of us would be happy with that.
• Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said: “Allah
curses the one who looks and the one at whom the gaze is directed
(i.e. the one who was responsible for attracting the attention of
The La`nah (curse) of Allah Ta’ala is no trivial and insignificant
matter, to be taken in the light-hearted manner we do. A person
tagged with the label of the ‘La`nah’ of Allah Ta’ala
is denied His Mercy and deprived of His proximity, until he repents
thereof, firmly intending not to indulge in such Haraam pleasure
again. If not, then this evil habit of lustful gazes paves the path
of disgrace. May Allah Ta'ala save us all.
• Furthermore, by developing the love and fear of Allah Ta’ala,
it becomes extremely easy to restrain oneself from sin.Taqwa and
the conscious awareness of Allah Ta’ala’s presence are
a protection, security and barrier from sin. These beautiful qualities
are easiest acquired from the company of the Auliya Allah (Friends
of Allah Ta’ala).
Mullah Ali Qaari (Rahmatullah ‘alaih) had given the following
definition of Hayaa (Modesty): ‘The ‘Haqeeqat’
of Hayaa is that your Maula (Master, Allah Ta’ala) must not
find you in that place which He has forbidden.” …or
indulging in that which He has forbidden.
The conscious awareness of Allah Ta’ala prevents us from
Ultimately, if we lower our gazes, we guard our hearts from evil
desires and lust, and we also guard our minds from Haraam fantasizing
– and Allah Ta’ala blesses our hearts with the sweetness
of Imaan. Just one small action of lowering the gaze or turning
the gaze in another direction and major problems are solved, and
the net result is the Supreme Bounty of Allah Ta’ala’s
pleasure, the sweetness of Imaan, peace and contentment! This is
indeed a wonderful exchange for such a small deed.
May Allah Ta’ala grant us the Taufeeq of 100% obedience and
bless us with the sweetness of Imaan.