From a supplementary discourse on Tafweez, Radha bil Qadha and Fanaa’iyat.
As had been discussed last week, the major cause of depression and worries is that we have not as yet learnt Tafweez, Fanaa’iyat and Radha-bil-Qadha.
These three concepts mean basically one and the same thing : that we hand all our affairs and decisions over to Allah Ta’ala, and that we be satisfied with whatever He decides for us.
However, the illusion we live in, is that whatever we have decided, will happen accordingly. We expect Allah Ta’ala to oblige us, accommodate us and follow through with our decisions, exactly as they are. When this does not happen, then as is expected, we suffer anxiety, frustration, depression and worry. Why? ... Because we forget that we are the slaves of Allah Ta’ala and that He is not our slave. As our Master, He can decide for us, whatever He wishes to. This is His prerogative.
Several examples had been cited last week and there are many more that could be alluded to. Some which had been mentioned were :
A proposal is put forward with a confidence and a certainty that it will be accepted, but it isn’t. Since Tafweez was not adopted, the person suffers acute depression.
A businessman has his sights on a prospective business venture, which he believes would make him successful. Somewhere along the line the transaction does not go through, and depression seizes him.
A student works very hard for his examinations and then fails, for whatever reason. Depression overwhelms him to such an extent that it leads him to contemplate suicide, if not commit suicide
Within the framework of Shariah, we have to make an effort. After making the correct effort in the desired direction we should hand all our matters to Allah Ta’ala. Just as a person wanting to go to Cape Town, will board a plane headed for Cape Town and not a Johannesburg-bound plane, so too do we need to make the effort towards what we want to achieve... but the final decision must be left to our Infinitely Wise Allah.